Health and Psychology

She counted off the events of the week. "It was a year ago on Monday when I had my accident.  Tuesday four years ago my husband filed for divorce.  On Wednesday six years ago my sister died.  And on Saturday three years ago I was robbed. It was a bad week."

"How do you remember all those?"  I asked.

"Oh I put them on a calendar." She said.

Why?  

To feel depressed look to the past, focus on everything that goes wrong, what you can't do, make things impossibly big in your mind, think in absolutes, and expect the worst.  

To make things better, look to the future, find evidence to support your beliefs, think realistically, focus on what you have control over and what you can do.  Review your prior successes.  Remember and celebrate people's lives, not their deaths.