|Posted by Margaret Donohue on October 9, 2016 at 9:50 AM|
I don't believe I know any woman over the age of 15 that hasn't been sexually assaulted, inappropriately gropped, fondled or touched without her consent by someone. So I'm not surprised that when @kellyoxford asks women on twitter to share their first sexual assault stories that there are more than 1 million responses with most of the events starting in childhood.
While the tipping point in the conversation about the prevalence of assault against women may be the latest video clip about Trump, it started earlier with the story of the rapes on campuses across the country, the victim letter from the Stanford rape case, the film The Hunting Ground, and the dozens of women talking about Bill Cosby assaulting them. It started with Anita Hill talking about sexual harassment at work before congress and that conversation about how a reasonable person and a reasonable woman might have different perspectives.
On Friday President Obama signed into law the Sexual Assault Survivor's Rights Act that allows rape kits to be preserved for up to 20 years or the State's maximum statue of limitations. It also lets survivors be advised in writing 60 days before their rape kit is destroyed and lets them request preservation beyond the scheduled destruction date.
Sexual assault is one of the most unreported crimes. Reading through the responses to Kelly Oxford's post on twitter, men apologize, point out that Bill Clinton did bad things too, or talk about how people are innocent until proven guilty. They blame the media and point out that men are sexually assaulted as well.
To men out there, you don't need to apologize or deflect. What you need to do is to speak out. The conversation Trump had in 2005 is common. It's not okay and it normalizes inappropriate behavior. It's your turn to speak out against the men that talk like this. Get offended. The men that talk this way prey upon your mothers, sisters wives and daughters. Talk to the women that have been assaulted. Find out for yourself that it's almost every woman you know and often most girls you know. You have to get horrified before you support tremendous change.